We all know that emotions can run high when our business lives coincide with our personal lives. With a 40-plus hour workweek, it can be tricky to find the time to talk about your feelings in an appropriate setting.
Just because you feel like you live at work, does not mean that you do. Home and work are two completely different places. I know that it can feel overwhelming at times when you feel like you are devoting as much of yourself as humanly possible to the job and you just aren’t getting to where you want to be.
So, what is your first inclination? If you are the type of person who thinks that you are the only one who even works at your job, you need a reality check. This is the person who pulls you into the supply closet to talk about your coworkers and all of their faults in a hush-hush tone and then scurries back into the office with a smile plastered on their face, waving hello to the very person that they were just putting on blast.
If your personal feelings have transformed your workplace into an episode of Melrose Place, you need to step back and remember one every important thing:
YOU ARE AT WORK!
These are your coworkers, not your friends. They may be your “work friends,” but they are not your real friends. Their priorities lie with keeping their jobs, not keeping your sanity.
If you are spending the majority of your day discussing the ineptitude of your colleagues, you need to take a good long look in the mirror. Most of what we can’t stand about others is the very thing that we can’t stand about ourselves. Talking about other peoples’ faults is a way of trying to distance ourselves from those same faults and reassign them to others. (Remember: Whoever smelt it, dealt it.)
No one is perfect and neither are you. Instead of investing so much time talking about other people and polluting the workplace with your negativity, think about how much better your workplace could be if no one was talking trash behind one another’s backs. Work becomes a place to go and work.
Isn’t that a nice concept?
by Kristen Keyes